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Giving Voice: Cancer, Survival and the New Year

note: I came across this post and felt it needed to be passed on as ‘giving voice’ to someone who needs to know that their voice counts.


There is nothing funny about cancer.

I thought starting a blog with humor would help lighten the overwhelming heavy weight this dreadful disease inflicts upon the body and mind.

I must have been kidding myself.

After a while it dawned on me.

I was not laughing at anything that happened during the course of cancer, nor was I laughing reading about it.

If anything, it brought back memories I’d rather have forgotten.

So then I came to the wise conclusion: the heck with blogging. I don’t care how funny some incidents may appear, I am done with it.

No longer want to think about it or relive the past year.

Emotional scars left behind .

Not funny.

Huge bills from hospital and doctors.

Really not very funny.

Clothing not fitting the way they use to.

Not at all funny.

Too tired to get out the bed most days.

Not even close to being funny.

But just when I was ready to throw in the towel, I received an email from a fellow blogger named Ashley about how my positive post helped her .

After reading her posts, I was touched by her raw emotions and how, after waiting 2 years, she mustered the courage to finally start a blog in hopes of helping others.

I was touched by this young woman’s outreach and honesty.

She helped me to realize that sharing can be healing. And so I promised her to dedicate the next blog to her.

Cheers to all my fellow bloggers for a positive, successful, and healthy New Year .


  1. Jayne Bowers

    Thank you for reposting this. It’s too raw and painful a subject to “touch” yet (write about), but reading about other people’s feelings and experiences is somehow healing.

    • laura bruno lilly

      I understand about the inability to touch a subject when too close to it, Jayne. I think distance gives us perspective enough to write more clearly those ‘raw feelings’, but there’s a struggle with the inner self which needs it to come out sooner than later (in my case at least) hence a source for added frustration. When another verbalizes what you’re feeling, it validates and helps in the healing like you said.
      Thank you for letting me know her voice is being heard through my teeny gesture of featuring it on my blog.

  2. Andy

    An important post to give voice too.
    That dreaded ‘C’ word affects, either directly or indirectly, so many.

    • laura bruno lilly

      Too, too true.

  3. Jane Chesebrough

    I do read blogs that share the struggle of whatever is tough in life for the person writing the blog. I sometimes encourage the writer and come to care for them as a person because all our personalities shine in our blogs. I have received so much more about a person’s courage, their humour, their story, I am inspired: to do something difficult, to see a situation in a new way, to have compassion for others, etc. Do not think you are simply being “self-centred.” You are helping others by sharing .

    • Laura Bruno Lilly

      Great reply, Jane. “Tink” needs to know this…

  4. Linda W.

    This was a beautiful post. Both of my parents have had cancer. Thank you for sharing this, Laura.

    • laura bruno lilly

      Such a hard thing to endure with one family member, much less both of your parents. I hope things have settled a bit for all of you in this.
      Surviving cancer is only the beginning…(sigh). The courage to continue after the ‘victory’ is demanding – as you well know.

  5. Tink the Belle

    Thank you for sharing the post with your readers. I just want to help others to feel they are not alone in fighting their battles. There is strength in unity and support.

    • laura bruno lilly

      I consider it an honor to do so.
      Thank you for your courage to share yourself with others…
      You are not alone.

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